Tips for Keeping Happy!
1) Just imagining it will happen is not enough... find the balance.
It really is true: what you think about happens. What you put out you attract. Whether you believe in the "Secret" or whether you believe in older books like Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich," the law of attraction is something that's been around for generations... because it works. But you also must use action. Find a balance: imagine and take action. Focus on what you want, not what you don't want.
2) Focus on just one thing.
My life has been a series of “just one thing.” Over the past years, I think it’s been a series of “just one thing” that has helped me get to today. Different "one" things. What I mean is keep your eyes open. Not everything you hear will resonate with you. But one thing may just be the "one" thing you need to help you through a particular challenge you're going through.
3) Just be.
No matter what you are seeking to do, you will know it’s time to begin. Don’t stress about it. Whether it's breaking a habit, whether it's starting something new, many times you wake up each morning thinking that today is the day that you will do it. Then things go awry and it doesn't happen. Don’t begin anymore. Have peace in where you are and know that when it’s time to begin again, you will know it. Find the joy in where you are right now. Find the gratitude in where you are right now. Just love where you are right now.
4) Wayne Dyer! Wayne Dyer! Wayne Dyer!
Okay, I'm a total fan of Wayne Dyer. He's helped me more times than I know. His books are simple, his talks are easy to listen to, and there's always at least one thing that helps you along the way. While he's passed on, his wisdom goes on forever. I encourage you to check out his website at DrWayneDyer.com.
Just a really fun site, and a great way to get thoughts from the Universe delivered to you each day. They will inspire you, center you and get your started in a great way each day. It's where I learned one of my favorite quotes, "Thoughts become things — choose the good ones."
6) The morning breeze has secrets to tell, do not go back to sleep.
It always makes me smile when people comment on the time that I wake up in the morning. So you know, I usually wake up at around 3:04 each morning… naturally. I used to go back to sleep and then I heard this line by Rumi and it changed my life: The morning breeze has secrets to tell, do not go back to sleep." You are waking up naturally for a reason. The morning is when you are the closest to God or spirit. Have you ever been outside at 3:00am and looked to the sky and the stars? I'm blessed to live by a preserve - no traffic, very little light from the city. At 3:30 in the morning, you cannot hear a sound but the birds and the leaves rustling in the wind (and an occasional deer hoofing it near me). There is nothing more beautiful and more peaceful. I believe it's in the stillness of the morning that you will find your purpose in life, if you still don't know what it is.
7) Meditate or Practice Mindfulness (see #15).
If you haven't tried it, just try for 10 minutes each day. If that's too much, just sit in silence for 5 minutes. Many people don't do it because they just don't know how. Really, there's no perfect way to do it. Just click here and I'll show you what I do to meditate: Tips on meditating.
8) Dance! (If that's too outside your comfort zone, just crank up the music!)
I guarantee your spirits will lift if you crank up your favorite song. Do not be afraid to dance! And there's a perfect way to tap into your happiness through dance with my "Let Your Yoga Dance" classes. Check it out at LetYourYogaDance.
9) Be around like-minded people.
This is self-explanatory. You must be around people who will feed your soul, not zap every ounce of energy out of you. Search high and low to find them, but find them. And when you do, celebrate them every single day!
10) If it's not easy, don't do it.
I cannot emphasize this enough. If you are in the throws of a project and it's really, really hard to do, try as much as you can to stop the project. Or you've created something at work that just isn't working, the reason is usually that it shouldn't be happening and if you can, stop what you are doing. I've discovered the things that bring the most reward are the things that are easy. I know you've heard expressions that anything worth doing may be hard. I don't agree with that. Anything and everything you do should be easy and have happy elements to it. If it doesn't, then try as hard as you can to find a way to make it fun. One of the reasons you are here is to feel joy. If you are not feeling some joy in almost everything you are doing, you need to do something else. Keep it simple.
11) Just send them love.
This one always drives my children nuts. Whenever they are having challenges with someone at school or a teacher, I tell them to silently send them love. They have wondered and voiced out loud, "But I do not love them." My response is to show gratitude for them. Did you know that gratitude is love? Yep! If you are having a challenge with someone, find one little thing that you are grateful for about them and silently thank them for it. Now, I know this may be really hard. I'll admit that at times, the only thing I can find to be grateful about someone is that I'm thankful they are showing me exactly how I don't want to be. But truly, that is something to be grateful for. I'm fairly sure in this lifetime, that if someone is irritating you, it's 1) either a reflection of something about them that you see in yourself that you don't like, or; 2) that person is insecure or something is going on that makes them take it out on you. Find something grateful about them.
12) Do what you should do 51% of the time.
Seriously... you can't be perfect. But no matter what habit you're trying to change, or temperment you're trying to achieve, bet you can do it 51% of the time. Try to be the best you can be more than you are the worst you can be. In every situation, where you don't know if you have the gumption to do it, just try to do it 51% of the time. Soon, that percentage will grow. Same goes with being happy. No one is happy all the time. I'm not happy 100% of the time. Even the thought of trying to be happy 100% of time -- the thought of trying to be perfect at anything -- just sets me running to the hills! But try to be positive 51% of the time... eventually that will grow and happiness and whatever you are seeking will be with you for 90% or more of the time.
13) Byron Katie's "The Work"
What is The Work? It's Byron Katie's method of helping you love what is. The Work of Byron Katie is a way of identifying and questioning the thoughts that cause all the anger, fear, depression, addiction, and violence in the world. She is an amazing woman. What I love about her, is that everything you need to know to start the work is free on her website, thework.com. The work is actually just asking yourself four simple questions:
Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
Can you absolutely know that it's true? (Yes or no.)
How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without the thought?
Anyone who knows me, knows that sometimes I "think too much." The work has helped ground me. Thoughts I think are true may not be true at all and the peace that comes from that is amazing! Do check out her site.
14) What anyone thinks about me is none of my business!
Another way to say this is "do not give a hoot about what anyone thinks of me." When I truly don't focus on the judgement of others and just be my authentic self, THAT is when the world opens up and I'm my happiest. Just for today, don't give a crap about what anything thinks about you!
15) Practice Mindfulness.
Mindfulness is a state achieved by focusing your awareness on the present moment. You still acknowledge and accept your feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, but try to stay in the moment. When thoughts about the past or future take me away from my present moment, I try to notice this and just come back to now. This takes practice. It's not easy. Just be aware.
16) I wish you to be happy!
I got this one from the "Jolly Good Fella" at Google, Chade-Meng Tan, and it really works! Heck, it's Google, what doesn't work at Google! Do this for just one day at work: every hour, spend 10 seconds wishing two people to be happy. Walk through the building, smile at two people and in your mind, just say, "I wish for you to be happy." That’s it, just 10 seconds each hour. I tried this, and it worked for me.
For the love of god, find someone who makes you laugh. Hang out with people who make you laugh. I'm not someone who makes people laugh... that's not my talent. I'm the 2nd seat to every Jimmy Fallon, every David Letterman, every Stephen Cobert out there. But I love that! You need laughter to chase away the stress. Find the people who can make you laugh!
... which leads me to the most important one:
18) My husband.
No, you cannot have my husband. But find someone who supports you, loves you and makes you laugh constantly. Even if that's just yourself.
Actually, I have more than 18 tips... but I like the number 18 so I'm stopping there... for now :-)